10+ Practical Values for Parenting with Respect

If we want our children to be respectful of other people, they need our respect first, generously given to them throughout their most formative years. It’s no easy task. Parenting is the most vulnerable and difficult job you’ll ever have. You don’t ever clock out. You don’t get paid overtime. It runs your nerves raw […]

Living with Hope when the World is on Fire

For many of us, 2020 has been the most traumatic year of our lives. It’s affected us all across generational lines, political tribes, and economic realities (although predictably disproportionately for those on the bottom). We’re all grieving, we’re hurting, and we’re angry. Everyday we hear another story or experience one ourselves that deepens our collective […]

Holistic Masculinity is Masculine Maturity

Thanks to the #MeToo movement, toxic masculinity has been brought to the forefront of the American psyche. It exposed the deep patterns of abuse within American male culture, revealing why so many young people have a reasonable distrust and distain for male authority. Our traditional understandings of masculinity and expectations of men are being re-evaluated. […]

Why Are Men Not Allowed to Be Vulnerable in Public?

To talk about the needs, suffering or pain of men within public view is to invite a reaction of harsh criticism from all sides of the political spectrum. If talking about the needs of men meant their’s supersede the needs of women, deny the importance of equality that feminism brings us all, or dare to […]

Naming the Craving Behind the Longing for a Good Father

For over 25 years, Richard Rohr has identified something he calls father hunger as “the single most prevalent [and painful] absence in the human soul.” He underlines the unique importance of identity the same-sex parent passes on to their children. For men, “we cannot be ourselves, we cannot be our own man, or our own father, until we have […]

The Myth of Priorities

The term priorities, with an ‘s’ on the end, is self-contradictory. If something is a priority, it is the most important thing. When we have two or more items defined as the most important, it doesn’t elevate their importance. It does the opposite. We no longer know which one is more important and it’s confusing, overwhelming and wastes far too many […]

Islands and Bridges

Everyone is an island. We are all born alone. No one knows our inner experience of the world, yet we all share in experiencing this kind of aloneness. In this way, we’re aren’t just alone. Together, we have potential for more. Growing up is discovering bridges can be built to connect us with one another, […]