Hello. I'm Patrick Nouwen
Hello. I’m Patrick Nouwen

I write about the shifting paradigms of faith+doubt, holistic masculinity, and respectful parenting.

PLEASE, CALL ME PATRICK

I LIVE IN NEBRASKA WITH MY WONDERFUL WIFE AND OUR TWO WILD AND WARM-HEARTED BOYS.

I homeschool my kids by day, teaching them all I know while they teach me everything I still have yet learn as a father.


By night, I write an occasional article here or there as a hobby about sh** that matters.


If I had to explain who I am in a sentence, I’d say—


I am the tension between the iconoclast and the bridge builder.

“I write for anyone who has been rejected by their church, for men who long for a positive masculine identity, and for parents doing what they can to survive.”

Patrick Nouwen

In South Africa, ecologist Gus Van Dyk discovered highly concerning and unusual aggression in adolescent male elephants— they started killing rhinos for the sport of it. Investigations revealed these young bulls had been raised in a herd with no elder males. They had no idea how to be an adult elephant and could only act out of immature impulses. When the more mature males, already raised by other elder bulls, were brought back into the herd, delinquent behavior subsided within weeks.

Even if boys reach adulthood,
they cannot become men if there are
no men around to show them how.

I believe this is universal. We learn how to be human from those who have discovered their humanity before us. We’re always still learning, but one of the best gifts we can give reconnects us with something sacred and helps us be more ourselves.

My hope is something here helps do that for you.

Faith & Doubt

Holistic Masculinity

Respectful Parenting

My Story

I must create.


LIFE HAS A WAY OF MAKING THE COMPLEXITIES OF THE UNIVERSE STILL PROFOUNDLY SIMPLE.


Everything lives. Everything dies. Everything belongs. Accepting the tension between the most beautiful and profane of life’s extremes can help snap all of it into focus. Embracing our death, rather than avoiding it, helps clarify what we want with the rest of our life.


Now more than ever, it’s a sobering possibility you or I will be dead in two weeks from today. Is there one thing you’d instantly know you need to do before you reach the end of your life?


I NEED TO WRITE.


There’s a book inside me still searching for words to give form and structure to the most inspiring and wild ideas running through my head. I’m not a great writer by any means, but I am learning to pay attention and nurture this little spark. Like a flickering flame in the darkness, it spills just enough light for me to keep moving forward. In moments of silence, profound truths are whispered to me:

“Hope once lost is found again when we honor one another’s pain.”

So here I am, writing down one sentence at a time.


Join me to explore the shifting paradigms of faith, masculinity, and fatherhood. You can read a few articles here, get in touch with me, or find me on twitter.

All writing inquires are welcome, and all other unsolicited sales attempts will be filtered out without being read. Thank you.
All writing inquires are welcome, and all other unsolicited sales attempts will be filtered out without being read. Thank you.

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